“When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen you may learn something new” ~Dalai Lama
“Everyone you will ever meet knows something that you don’t” ~ Bill Nye
Weight of Verbal vs Non-Verbal cues when judging feeling and attitudes
38% Voice tonality
7% Word choice
55% Body language
It is important we pay attention to, and improve, the way we say what we say to attain the desired effect. This will help to build and nurture relationships.
Top 10 Tips For A Better Conversation ~Celeste Headlee
Don’t try to multitask while having a conversation (be present)
Don’t pontificate
Use open ended questions (start with Who, What, Where, When, How)
Go with the flow
If you don’t know, then say you don’t know
Don’t equate your experience with theirs
Try not to repeat yourself
Stay out of the weeds
Listen
Be brief
Feedback is about learning more, rather than making judgements. When giving feedback: Firstly, look for what is good about their ideas, then sandwich the not so positive points between two positive points. Avoid saying what you think they want to hear. Finally discuss preferred directions to follow
When receiving feedback Process and appreciate what others are saying and avoid thinking about what you are going to say, just listen.